Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 3:11-14
It’s not easy starting over. It can be a scary thing.
Usually starting over means something else has ended, or having to accept that something might have failed or didn’t go quite as planned.
Maybe you have been on the right track with healthy eating habits and began seeing progress from workouts at the gym. You then decide to have a cheat day, which turned into a cheat week, and then you found yourself back in your old, not so healthy routine and no longer in the gym. I can relate. What now? Continue down the path of unhealthy living? Give up? No. You start again and press toward your goals. You fight.
Or you could be in a not so good friendship or relationship? Things have changed or maybe things have not changed, and that’s the problem. What now? Give up? No, but in this situation, starting over could mean two different things. It’s very possible the relationship is worth saving, so then you fight for it, you work for it, you start over by doing what you need to do in the situation to make it survive. If that is not the case, then maybe it’s time to recognize that it may be the best decision to let it go and start over for yourself without that person. Here, you are fighting for yourself.
On the other hand, starting over can be exciting and worthwhile.
For instance I’ve been on vacation for almost two weeks now– training myself mentally because next week, I start a new job. In a way, I am starting over. This new round was unexpected as I am with a new company, a new boss, new co-workers, and will begin working with new people on new, community impacting projects and facing new challenges. I have fought very hard to get here, nothing has ever been handed to me, and this is a new chapter in my life that I am ready to completely embrace. You see, it’s all very new and a little scary, but I am ready to come out swinging.
Also, earlier this week, a good friend of mine, Vanessa, gave birth to a beautiful baby boy –Tyson Maxwell. She already has a seven year old daughter, but in many ways she and her husband are very much so starting over. Her pregnancy was not the easiest at first — BUT, she is a fighter; and there will be a lot of “firsts” this time around, but still I have no doubt that God will continue to cover her family as they embrace this new blessing and that they will be able to train him in the way that he should go. I have no doubt he will be a fighter, too.
Listen — life can be overwhelming, we may get knocked down and things happen; both good and bad. What you can’t forget is that starting again can be viewed as a good thing. Know that you often have to fail many times before you succeed, a million people will tell you no before they say yes, and you will certainly have to crawl before you walk and walk before you run.
What can you do to help with the fight of starting over? Don’t just start from scratch. Instead, I’d suggest taking the following steps first:
- Take a look at what you can learn from the past, but don’t dwell on it. –What worked? What didn’t work?
- Think about when and where the change occurred (whether good or bad) and get focused on the change you are looking for in the situation overall.
- Now, consider what steps can you take to avoid past mistakes? How can you give it your best this time around? How can you fight?
Truth is, many times, we don’t know what to do and where to start. Let alone, how to start again. I understand. We get put in situations and don’t know why, so we don’t know how to react. I pray. A lot.
In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. – Romans 8:26
Remember one thing, we are fighters. It won’t be easy, but in the end, it will all pay off. In honor of the late and great, Muhammad Ali…“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.’
And so in this very moment, I pray that you too will find the strength to fight and start over –whatever that means for you.